But the same law has also caused a lot of pain for men with refugee children. Their wives or ex-wives may have left Ukraine with their children, and at this point, fathers have no way to travel abroad to see them.
After more than a week of driving all day and all night across 10 countries, Tatiana and the couple’s eldest son finally arrived in Turku, Finland, where their youngest son, a semipro hockey player, lives. There she realized that she did not want to go back home.
I was so tired that I spent the first days just sleeping, walking and thinking. Suddenly I had some free time when I didn’t have to go to my job or take care of my parents. And then one moment I surprisingly realized: I don’t miss home. I don’t want to go back. I mean, it’s not that I don’t love my parents or my husband. I was not thinking about divorce. I just realized that I wanted to be alone.
Those first few weeks were really tough. After so many years, waking up alone in a cold bed with no one waiting for you? And it wasn’t just the distance. It was a lack of faith in tomorrow. I didn’t know whether the Russian soldiers would come for us or not. I didn’t know whether I would survive or not. But not a night went by when I didn’t dream about him.
According to estimates by Ukrainian mental health professionals, divorce lawyers, dating gurus, court clerks and judges, the number of marriages that ended in Ukraine last year was twice or even three times higher than before the war. What’s driving Ukraine, experts claim divorce rateWhich has always been high compared to other countries, the war-related tension is not that high, although it is very high, but the scale of isolation is huge.
Psychiatrist Dr. Trofimenko said that when people are separated from their communities, they begin to re-evaluate everything.
“People start asking questions,” he said. “Like: Is this person I spent so many years of my life with still the right person for me if I no longer know who I am?”